MARRIAGE

I have watched the trailer of the movie "When the Love is Gone" and I was so frustrated knowing that what the characters portray happen in real life.

Here's another great thing I would like to share with you. My interpretation to the poem "The Prophet on Marriage". Some thoughts were taken from the book The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm.

"one's not half two
 it's two that halve of one"

Marriage most probably means commitment that's why other people are afraid to get married but they live with each other. There is something in marriage that makes the relationship more special. Those who are afraid are just selfish and ignorant of the true meaning of love.

As you exchange vows to each other in front of the people and in the altar, meaning your love is unconditional that it can even conquer death. This is equivalent to the readiness of living with someone eternally. This means commitment. Commitment does not mean imprisonment. The love that bounds marriage is a free exercise of choice. Two people love each other when they can live without each other but choose to live together; it is because love is not dependency.

Love can only grow with freedom. The husband and the wife can also enjoy each other’s company without depriving their selves of doing things that will make them more than what they are. They must let their relationship grow by helping each other grow also. They will only be fruitful if they give and take pollen grains. For their life to be bountiful their relationship must not be static and there should be space too.

In the usual scenario, the wife cleans the house, cooks the food and takes care of the baby and the husband does heavy works such as repairing walls and chairs. Sometimes they could switch their chores or help each other in taking care of the baby. By this, they are adding spices to their life and each spouse trains himself or herself for survival in the event of the loss of the other.

The union of two persons does not mean you cannot distinguish one from another. The giving in love is not giving up. The self is not a thing that when you share your life it doesn’t longer belong to you.  You should put space in your relationship. Let other people share their life with you and you also share your life to them. You must participate in social activities.

In the society, married couple is viewed as one. The fulfillment of the other can affect another but; as life time partners, you shall not let the external forces quake you. It’s a challenge for you to be strong, for you to excel in your field and in the event the other one falls the other one must be ready to become a savior.

Love is not giving up, it is also a sharing of one self but it must not cause possession because in love you do not expect for exchange but other has no strict right to own yourself.

The married couple shall build not just a house or shelter but a home. A place where there is pleasant atmosphere, harmony and happiness. They must not control each other’s life but rather support each other through life. Each of them must be responsible and trustworthy for love accompanies loyalty. Love is interpersonal. It is between two persons. Since you are intimate you share things that are not for public consumption. Once trust is betrayed something colorful and wonderful will be destroyed. A person is unique, valuable and irreplaceable. Being a person is being fragile, dignified and sacred. Be careful, there is risk in love practice it, when you know how to love truly, you and your relationship will be like cherry blossoms on a spring waltz, growing and blooming after a long cold winter.